Finally today, after emailing Holt last week, we received a copy of our new, improved, revised version of our home study report from our social worker. Although I thought we had agreed she would just need to write an addendum (since the original home study was already submitted in August), she went ahead and rewrote the entire report including the changes we requested. I'm not sure what effect this will have on our expected approval from the adoption board here but that's not something we have control over. At least they will have a version with accurate information somewhere in their files once this one is submitted.
The good thing is that most of the substantial inaccuracies were corrected. I was quite pleased with the changes she made. However there were still several minor errors and a few major ones. The other good thing is that she's giving us the chance to make more corrections. I sent her my list of remaining changes today so hopefully the final copy will get done very soon. If she agrees to change the things I suggested, I will be sufficiently happy with the home study report and I will feel like it truly represents us well.
I tried to be as gentle as possible with her and tell her how much I appreciate all the time and energy she was putting into getting this right for us. I was able to explain why we care so much about so many details. And for once I was able to articulate those reasons, even to myself.
1) Our intention is to be completely honest in our dealings with this adoption even if it means we must share a negative aspect of our history, i.e. my past experiences with drugs. Especially when I answered honestly to questions regarding my past during the home study. Why our social worker thought it best to state the exact opposite of what I said is beyond me. This was done in several areas to cover up truths SHE didn't like about us or things she thought would hurt our case.
2) We desire that the personal information (such as ages, dates, the length of our engagement, circumstances & intentions for major decisions) provided to the various agencies involved in this adoption be as consistent as possible. That way, we are not put into an awkward position at some point in the future to defend incorrect information (lie) simply because it was stated in a report.
That's fair, right?
1 comment:
Very fair! I am certain there is purpose and meaning in this. You will be blessed for your honesty and integrity.
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