We just got back from a three-week trip to the US and Canada. At the end of our trip we got to spend a week with Andrey's family. Ella and her cousin Annika got along so well and had so much fun that it was difficult to get them to do anything else but play together. (Suddenly we were having numerous urinary accidents because of how much fun Ella was having. She didn't want to miss any of it!) They held hands in the car. And for the first time, I saw Ella spontaneously give a hug to a friend. A few times, she walked over to Annika and gave her a huge hug. So sweet.
At the end when we were saying good bye, both Andrey and I hugged Annika. With each hug, Ella mildly protested and said, "Ella's Mommy!" and "Ella's Daddy!" She wasn't upset, she just declared the truth to make sure Annika understood.
It made me so happy to see this. To me, this was an example of her secure attachment to us. She was claiming us as hers. And she did so confidently.
I compare this to where we were at a year ago. Same Spring trip. In DC at a friend's house who had a 2 week old baby. I held the baby and Ella pitched herself onto the floor crying. She was so upset that I quickly passed the baby back to his momma so I could hold and console my daughter, assuring her that she was my daughter, I was her momma and always would be.
That is the difference between insecure attachment and secure attachment.
We are a year and seven months in to parenting our Michella, who is thriving. She is a gem and we love her to pieces.
Now check out this adorable video of Ella and Annika having snacks behind the couch at Grandma and Grandpa's house last week. Cheers!
At the end when we were saying good bye, both Andrey and I hugged Annika. With each hug, Ella mildly protested and said, "Ella's Mommy!" and "Ella's Daddy!" She wasn't upset, she just declared the truth to make sure Annika understood.
It made me so happy to see this. To me, this was an example of her secure attachment to us. She was claiming us as hers. And she did so confidently.
I compare this to where we were at a year ago. Same Spring trip. In DC at a friend's house who had a 2 week old baby. I held the baby and Ella pitched herself onto the floor crying. She was so upset that I quickly passed the baby back to his momma so I could hold and console my daughter, assuring her that she was my daughter, I was her momma and always would be.
That is the difference between insecure attachment and secure attachment.
We are a year and seven months in to parenting our Michella, who is thriving. She is a gem and we love her to pieces.
Now check out this adorable video of Ella and Annika having snacks behind the couch at Grandma and Grandpa's house last week. Cheers!
4 comments:
I love it !! And what two tiara crowned princesses wouldn't want a snack behind Gramma's couch !!!
Cousins making sweet memories !!!
What beautiful memories!! The video made me laugh out loud! Too much fun. Cheers.
This grandma Mimi laughed out loud too!! So very precious!!! Seeing those two girls together brings great joy!! Cousins rule!!!
SWEET! You guys inspire me that the world can be an amazing, love filled place. Whodathunk what God had in store for you? What beauty.
xo
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