Old Boyfriend and Facebook

So a few months ago an abusive ex-boyfriend of mine from high school added me as a friend on Facebook. Have any of you experienced having the most unlikely person strangely add you as a friend that leaves you scratching your head? I certainly had to scratch my head and wonder what would inspire this guy to do this and then proceeded to ignore the request. Soon after, a friend of mine emailed me saying this guy had tried to add her as well and she was like (I'll put it into nicer words), "What the heck!? Is this guy crazy??" She then reminded me of a day that she stood up to him after he was pushing me around and yelling at me at school. I hadn't remembered that but thanked her for sticking up for me.

Then, this guy tried to add my younger brother as a friend on facebook. My brother, shocked and outraged, called to tell me and told me how tempted he was to respond to him saying something like, "Aren't you the guy that used to beat my sister up physically and verbally? Aren't you the guy that egged our house and tore up the landscaping in our front yard with your truck? Why would I want to be your friend?" I told him, go ahead and do it if he wants to.

Months go by. Then yesterday my brother called me to tell me that it has been bugging him so bad that he just had to finally respond. He did, and then he emailed his reply to me so I could see it. It was AWESOME! I won't copy it here because I haven't asked his permission to share it but the point I want to get across is that my sweet brother really gave it to this guy. It started out like what I wrote above and then he went on to explain the damage he had done, not only to me personally but to our family and our home (which is true). He told him that he'd pray for him and that he hoped he'd changed and is a different person now but that he would not be his friend on facebook and "not even in real life" if he were to see him. He ended it by saying he hoped he had gotten help so that he didn't treat anyone else the way he treated me.

Well done, brother! This was so sweet and it made me feel good that my brother felt the need to do this. We just can't figure out what would motivate this guy to add us as a friend. Does he not remember? I've already forgiven and moved on a long time ago but it doesn't mean I want to connect with him in any way. I find it bizarre. Facebook is bizarre, in some of the connections it brings. Some undesirable connections can get a little too close for comfort.